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Consuming and Contributing relationship.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Hi,

Every glarezone has been adding value to many lives and enhancing wisdom for all of us. Today I love to share something very new about relationship.

We all play number of roles in life and every minute we may have a new role added to life. Let’s take out couple of minutes and recall all our relationships around us. Starting from first circle relationships with intense emotions to a far relationship like some of your forgotten child hood friend, an employee or colleague who worked with you long time ago.

You will have a big list of names and people coming up. Now, let’s do a small exercise. How many relationships are adding value to your life through any means because today we will understand two very important categories of relationships.

Some examples: I have a watsapp group created by my old friends and they keep posting messages, i only reply sometimes and sometimes i don’t. So, in this relationship they are adding value to my life.

I am an important part of the family so, I take care of the needs of family members and in this relationship, I am adding value to those lives.

I am reading a famous book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” and Dr. Stephen covey written beautifully, As a human being, we all are blessed with EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT unlike money bank account. A simple logic is, you need to deposit in order to withdraw money from your bank account, isn’t it? and the more you withdraw lesser the balance. Once the account is empty, you can’t withdraw anymore. But, Emotional bank account is not like this, you can keep on withdrawing how much ever you want.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Consuming and Contributing relationship

For example: A child will keep withdrawing emotional attention from a mother and it is a never ending process. But, if the account is not deposited back, it goes into negative balance. I have come across a very interesting example for this. A loving mother used to care for an orphan boy living in a garage next door and both boys grew up playing together. Her son got good education and became a doctor then flew to U S  for a job and he got settled. His mother was alone living here and the boy next door always used to take care of her and serve her with good heart. This mother was so attached to this poor boy that she wrote entire wealth on his name thinking that “my own son is well settled, away and he wouldn’t need any of this when he wouldn’t need me”.

Her son was accused of irregularities and removed from his practice for some reason and his certificates were also taken away by local authorities. His wife (who also happened to be a local citizen) divorced him and he lost all his earning as well in the process of dealing with situations. With this pain he comes back and see his own mother was passed away and wrote all her wealth to the boy used to live in garage.

What does it show? It shows how important is to deposit into emotional bank account with your loved ones.  Her son was so busy in building his career and life that he forgot to love, care and keep the emotional attachment intact and never deposited into his emotional bank account with his mother.

A child is a consuming relationship. In this relationship, you will only see child is withdrawing love, care, energy from it’s mother and when the child grow up, don’t you think he/she must deposit all those withdrawals? When this process happens it’s called “Contributing relationship” so now, check if you are in which category.

In a very interesting relationship of a husband and wife, we become consuming relationship. We keep on expecting some or the other things and keep hurting each other. for ex: If wife likes romantic movies, husband likes action movies and while watching a movie, they both argue for silly reasons. We all must understand that we all are different from each other and we have to respect each other’s opinion if not accept.

You need to check who can make you comfortable, feel good and feel alright during tough times, they are your depositors or contributing relationships. And are you giving small comforts for those contributing relationships?

How can you deposit into emotional bank account?

Its very simple, through all those small actions makes someone comfortable. Lets say your parents love to eat together or like to talk to you, make sure you give time. If your spouse loves to go on long drive or have her favourite dish, give those experiences to him/her.

Keep up all those small commitments that you overlook or ignore thinking “it’s a very small thing, it can be done anytime”. Those small things mean a lot to some one close to you because they keep on adding balance to your emotional account.

If you are a parent, make sure your child gets all the freedom, respect, love and care to explore life. be a CONTRIBUTING RELATIONSHIP as much as possible and you will never have a tough situations with people.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Glarezone 377 – Fine Tuning Life

Fine Tuning Life

Hi,

How are you doing? hope it’s been a good week for you in all the ways..

Let me share something interesting that i learned this week and discovered some new dimensions of comprehending things and situations.

Fine-Tuning

Fine-Tuning

I am running for TCS 10K marathon happening in Bangalore in May. I have been running marathon for the last 2 years and its an amazing experience. I have completed 22K marathon running and I was feeling that i have become a good runner. After 22K marathon, I had become little slow during practices and running sessions.

My coach observed this and he gave a feedback. He said “Sathya, you are good runner however, you begin at good pace and slowing down at the end. It is very important that you run faster at the end in the race and that is what makes you winner. It’s okay to start slow but end faster”

I felt amazing and i applied that during uphill running which made me feel good. I understood it’s essential to get feedback. It is just not feedback, it is FINE-TUNING because I was already a good runner. This made me realize, we get relevant and right feedback in any domain only by an expert.

 

I shared this instance because, people think about everything and go everywhere with judgemental mindset. Last week there was a session arranged by the marathon runners group about diet for upcoming event and they had invited a dietician to take the session. There were about 80 people confirmed their presence and only 20 people turned up. This clearly shows that people judge everything based on either their perception or 1 or 2 instances that they have heard. It was a very helpful session about proper diet and she said “we give diet based on your blood report and not just generalized chart because every human has different diet requirement, specially for runners”. This was not just regular but it was FINE-TUNING the knowledge about the diet.

I just wanted to know if I have implemented FINE-TUNING of attitude at home. I went to drop my daughter to school and while driving I asked her a question “We are living in a good home, have nice vehicle and 2 businesses. So, What would you do when you grow up” and she spontaneously said, I will help as many people as possible paapa because you are earning lot of money” and I understood.

Do you go to people who help you with right feedback and do FINE-TUNING for you? Make sure you listen  to those fine-tuning words that can help you move ahead in life because we get those people very rarely in life. DON’T PREJUDGE ANYTHING

Now that we have understood the importance of FINE-TUNING, I would like to share another instance with you. A lady came to me and said, “I have been trying everything in my life to come out of financial crunch but still no good. I have been implementing everything i learn and still feel i’m failed many times. Why is this happening to me?” I helped her to understand that she is not ready to listen to her own self and cribbing too much inside and I gave many examples to make her understand “DESPERATION DELAYS EVERYTHING”

TIME is an important factor when it comes to manifestation of dreams and desires. Many times we feel we are making a lot of efforts but unable to achieve what is expected. You just have to keep making efforts and result is assured but you would never know when that would come. Keep 30% buffer time for everything. Be it a commitment you made, be it a delivery of product or giving service you have promised or anything for that matter. and one more thing before we finish today – If you are playing a role of FINE-TUNING, you have to understand that people tend to forget everything because time flies and everyone wants to go ahead. So, you may feel people don’t really care for good feedback. It’s you who have determined to help someone. so, FOLLOW UP TILL YOU CATCH UP.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

LOVE & LIVE

Topic: LOVE & LIVE

Let’s start with the story today.

Love & Live

Love & Live

A Businessman goes into deep financial losses and he becomes depressed and thinks about committing suicide sitting on a park bench. He keeps thinking different ways of killing himself. Meanwhile an old man come to him and asks “why are you sitting like this?” but Businessman does not reply to his question, this old man is so persistent that he says “tell me what is the your problem and i can solve it, I am WARREN BUFFET”. Businessman feels he can share his trouble and he explains everything to the old man. After listening to everything, old man opens a cheque book and gives a cheque worth 1 million dollars and says “use this money and if you become successful, you can return it to me or you can keep it”.

Businessman feels happy but he starts thinking, “why should i use this money, this is not mine” and he starts thinking about what is the real problem and how can he come out of it through planning and action. Finally, he decides not to use the money and set up an action plan and works on it. He successfully clears all his loans in 6 months and set up a successful business. Then he comes back to the same park and sits on the same bench, expecting the old man to appear to handover his cheque. An old man comes running into the park and 2 people dressed in white clothes are chasing him. Businessman asks this old man “what happened and why are you running?” mean while others hold the old man and asks businessman “Did he say, he can help you? and he is warren buffet and did he give you a cheque?” Businessman says “YES, but what happened?”. People dressed in white say “This guy is a retard and he keeps escaping from mental hospital next door and comes to this park, then he start giving cheque leaf to people like this”

What do you understand from this story?

Everything was there inside the Businessman, but he had lost faith. He didn’t believe that there is support available outside and he was struggling to love himself. The moment he regained the faith inside, he didn’t need help. It is only the faith of getting support from outside made him to gain the confidence and guts to change his life.

A biggest limitation that all humans have is “we never know the value of anything until we lose it” Love for self is also the same, and the story above is just an example. Not only our feelings, if we don’t love self, we knowingly ignore health, relationships & responsibilities. so, LOVE YOURSELF.

What is LOVE?

 

A mother always cares for her child no matter how the child is. A sister asks her brother “why are you looking so dull? let’s go for dinner or i’ll cook something for you? A brother consoles his younger/elder brother by saying “don’t worry, i’ll help you solve this problem” and in the same way – husband, in-laws & everyone shower love on us.

But, we keep definitions about love based on many perceptions and expectations. Everyone expects someone else to express love towards them. But, everyone also feels “i don’t have to say it. he / she has to understand, Love is not expressed directly” isn’t it?

Everyone has their own ways of showing love to someone they care for. But we all expect something else and crib about it without understanding the expressions. even GOD loves us but we blame him when we run into difficulties. so, LOVE EVERYONE around you.

for ex: When a child starts crawling for the first time and trying to reach a toy, parents keep that toy little far so that the child should learn to stretch itself, isn’t it? God is a father who knows his child can stretch and reach to anything it wants so he gives small successes very soon and makes us go through difficulties to get bigger things in life.

When you LOVE LIFE, there is always uncertainty & insecurity, no one lives life without challenges and challenges make us stronger and break the limitations, comfort zones and bring better life. so LOVE CHALLENGES.

LOVE OTHERS by listening to them without any distractions and express your love and care for them. If you don’t express your love, no one will come to know about it because it’s human limitation.

Some other ways we see the expressions of love are

If a boss pays salary to all his employees on time, he loves his employees. If an employee come to office on all working days without any excuses or despite of health issues, he loves his job and his work.

A child asked god “if everything is written in my fate, why should i prey again?” and god said “Son, it’s true but also in the same page, i have also written “LIVE AS YOU WISH”

So LIFE is always what you make of it. give maximum LOVE to everyone in life so that you can also LIVE AS YOU WISH.

 

BY

Sathyanarayana V.R.

Founder & Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Compromising is required in life or not?

We always DON’T compromise on things or situations where it is not required at all. For ex: We fight over watching favorite TV shows, eating favorite food & going to places which only we demand.
BUT
We COMPROMISE on biggest things in life like choosing right Career, good partner in Marriage and so on….there are things that you can’t change forever and there are things you can from now….

Attend this FREE public program to know the essence of making choices & compromises.

Self-Mastery

Self-Mastery

HUMAN LIFE & PURIFICATION

Glarezone  – 370

Topic: HUMAN LIFE & PURIFICATION

Human Mind always works on what is given to it through 5 senses. So, it’s always what you think and what you give to your mind matters a lot in every action you take followed by results.

Human life & Purification

Human life & Purification

The purest element in the world is SOUL . During the journey of living, Mind keeps getting contaminated through the 5 senses and creates a mask around the soul which decreases the energy of the soul. It will get energized by only timely purification process or we all someday forget the source of energy called SOUL.

for example: If you have a 2 or 4 wheeler vehicle, what happens if you don’t service the vehicle after it’s due time? you keep driving it for thousands of KMs without a service, What happens then? It slowly develops noisy engine, fear of breaking down, weak breaks and you can’t enjoy the ride at all. Like it’s important for a vehicle to be taken care periodically, we must take care of our mind and soul.

There are 10 different types of purifications that can make our lives heavenly and smooth journey.

1. Physical Body is purified by WATER & EXERCISE

We all go through the journey of life in this vehicle called body. It is purified by water & exercise. As we all know, 78% of the earth filled with water and look at the science of human body as well. On an average 72% of the human body filled with fluids and water. All researches and experiments have proven the importance of drinking water. Drinking a ltr of water in the early morning will settle down all chemicals released through digestion and de-toxify the entire body. every cell is rejuvenated and energized for a whole day. If you don’t have the practice, start from today.

Exercise is another form which makes you swet and takes out all toxics from the body.

2. Breathe is purified by PRANAYAM

People living in the city go through many ailments of breathing problems because of increased amount of carbon dioxide in the environment. Practice pranayam early in the morning (before 8am) and you will experience the difference. Your eyes will sparkle and skin glows.

3. Mind gets purified by CHANTING & MEDITATION

Mind generates 60 thousand thoughts a day. Chanting will bring the mind to focus & meditation will help to decrease the number of thoughts generated so that peace of mind is attained.

4. Intelligence gets purified by KNOWLEDGE

Intelligence is a natural guiding force or faculty that shows right & wrong (inner voice that always shows what is right). We always have confusion in following natural laws. for ex: Speed is dangerous, there is a contradictory law says what is the use of buying ticket after the train takes off. Many situations present a challenge in choosing what is right. Only RIGHT KNOWLEDGE can help us to choose what is right. So, read more books, seek for knowledge about anything that you want to learn.

5. Memory gets purified by MANAN & CHINTAN

What if there was no concept called memory and we all forget everything after a sleep? Unimaginable isn’t it. But, same memory has to be purified through review and contemplation. Remove unwanted memories of incidents, situations or experiences stored in the mind and release yourself from the clutches of emotions attached to those experiences.

6. EGO gets purified by SEVA/SERVING

We all really feel happy from inside when we serve someone without any expectations. If you feel, you are superior anytime, you will start losing the creative energy and people around you. So, howmuch ever you serve is always less. If you haven’t done it so far, start from home. start serving your own parents or close relatives who care for you.

7. Self gets purified by SILENCE.

When the mind is silent, it starts becoming more powerful and focused about taking next action for making lives better. Practice being silent at least an hour every day and you can see the difference.

8. Food gets purified by POSITIVE THOUGHTS WHILE COOKING & EATING

It always matter how the food is cooked. You may have eaten food in many places but you will feel fulfilled only with the home made food because with all the ingredients an essential aroma is added to the food called LOVE. When mother/granny/wife/sister cooks the food, they add their feeling and love to the food which makes it special.

9. Wealth is purified by DONATING / GIVING

As wealth gets accumulated, it brings great amount of fear as well for many people. This fear comes only when the person feels “I have money which is not mine or which i don’t deserve”. People who become wealthy by hard efforts will never feel scared of wealth.

10. FEELINGS / BHAV is purified by LOVE

Unconditional love is the only way of purifying the feelings about anyone in this world. Anything we have today was not with us when we were not born. Start LOVING every one who comes into your life and you will not have enmity with anyone in this world and it purifies your feelings about everything and everyone.

 

By

Sathyanarayana V. R.

Founder & Master Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Stories – An art of Communication

Stories - an art of communication

Stories – an art of communication

Stories – an art of communication

Glarezone  – 370

Do you have problem with conveying your ideas with others? Do you feel no one understand what are you talking about? Do you blame anyone of not doing things as expected? then, you really have to do something about it. isn’t it?

Kids, Adults, Elders – irrespective of age, gender or religion, all get attracted to stories in fraction of seconds. If you have read about legendary people in books, you would have noticed that they were told stories by their mothers, fathers and grannies which created lasting impact on their lives and it became an inevitable value of their lives.

We all get excited to listen to stories. But we find the story interesting or impactful only when it reaches to our imagination and creates pictures in our eyes. How does this happen? Just think for a while. We all are wonderful story tellers when it comes to escaping responsibilities or while giving excuses to someone for not fulfilling any promise and many times we get caught of lying as well.

We all would have heard some stories in our childhood which made a great impact on our lives and changed the way we were living. isn’t it? can you tell the story to someone and give the same impact which you received from your elder?

Story-telling is an art of communication that can get the things done in expected manner. You have to tell your own story effectively with all the required essential aspects of your life for some one to understand you completely and it is just not story telling.

There are many important factors that you need to consider to make your story effective and impactful what are those?

Appropriate expressions

Body Language

Tone

Feeling

Building curiosity in the audience

Opening & Closing

Imagination, Timing and Action

Moral of the story

 

All of these factors only can make your story more effective. Now, lets see how do we use it in day to day life.

 

If you are a Businessman, You have to present your product or service to your customer with all these essential factors or you find it difficult to sell any products/services. If you are a parent, you have to make sure you capture your children’s attention to make them listen to what you have to say and give them the right morals to build strong life values. If you are a housewife, you have to add all these flavours to your conversation to make relationships happier and build good bondage. If you are a professional, along with all the knowledge you have, you need to develop this strong skill called presentation to keep growing in your profession.

 

Skill-set is developed only by training and practice. Get trainings from experts or teachers or coaches to become the best.

 

By,

Sathya Narayana V R

Founder & Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt ltd.

Money Mantra

Glarezone – 359

Topic: Money mantra

A question for all – In every business, there is an employee who works without asking for salary, increment, loan or leave but ready to work for 24 hours to make you rich. Who is it? Imagine that you get employees like that for your business, how would it be? Most of the Businessmen say – It is ME. is it true?

 

Money mantra

Money mantra

If you have answered as “yourself”, it is wrong because we all have limitations. After a certain extent, you will take a break. After earning some wealth, you will relax. Emotions keep going up and down and you work based on mood some times. Isn’t it? THEN WHO IS THIS EMPLOYEE?

It is no other than “MONEY”. YES, this is the only employee who doesn’t need anything from you. Doesn’t expect you to do anything in return for the work. This efficient employee needs only 2 things 1. Direction and 2. Guidance

If you have understood this, you would achieve financial freedom. Direction to the money is very important as how to grow and Guidance will make right utilization of the money. Most of us never define the directions or guidance for this wonderful employee so struggle to keep him with us.

Let’s ask some of the fundamental questions to ourselves to understand more about adding directions and guidance to the money because that is what defines our true life.

1. WHY DO I NEED MONEY?

We all know money needed for everything; it is a basic need to lead life. We also know, nothing can happen without money. These are general statements about money. But, have you asked yourself anytime, “WHY DO I NEED MONEY?” as we don’t define the purpose for which we need to earn money, we keep working as a routine and not to achieve the objective.

2. HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU WANT?

Mostly, answer to this question is going to be – UNLIMITED. Isn’t it? This is again being very general statement and mind never conceive the idea about how much do i need. You will not acknowledge your success even after arriving at a certain stage of earning wealth. Or it will be the other way around as well, a philosophy like – Too much money is bad and you keep thinking that you can start earning big money any time. Set exactly defined number, be it crores or multi billions.

3. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THAT MONEY?

When you have defined above questions, you can think of helping others and good deeds after you surpass your set target. Make yourself rich enough to help needy people because anything you earn above your expected targets is going to be like bonus and you can truly enjoy the life by making others life happier.

Helping others or giving money to someone in need will not only make you happy but it will create good environment in the society. Ask yourself, what is the benefit if the society is good? Our next generations can like in safe conditions because of helping each other and this is the biggest gift we can give to society.

There are 4 sources or earning money.

1. Employee: being an employee, you trade your hours for salary or remuneration

2. Self-Employed: All professionals who work alone and get all the profits for the effort. However, they will have a limitation of working alone and if they don’t work, money won’t come.

3. Businessman: Any professionals add more people to support the business and multiply the income.

4. Investor: Any individual who make his money earn more money.

You can become an INVESTOR with any combination, which can make you earn residual income. Do analysis of your income sources and become an investor.

Don’t trade your entire life only to earn money. Make money an efficient employee working for you and give him proper directions and guidance So that you can live life and add more to it.

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By

Sathyanarayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.