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Consuming and Contributing relationship.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Hi,

Every glarezone has been adding value to many lives and enhancing wisdom for all of us. Today I love to share something very new about relationship.

We all play number of roles in life and every minute we may have a new role added to life. Let’s take out couple of minutes and recall all our relationships around us. Starting from first circle relationships with intense emotions to a far relationship like some of your forgotten child hood friend, an employee or colleague who worked with you long time ago.

You will have a big list of names and people coming up. Now, let’s do a small exercise. How many relationships are adding value to your life through any means because today we will understand two very important categories of relationships.

Some examples: I have a watsapp group created by my old friends and they keep posting messages, i only reply sometimes and sometimes i don’t. So, in this relationship they are adding value to my life.

I am an important part of the family so, I take care of the needs of family members and in this relationship, I am adding value to those lives.

I am reading a famous book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” and Dr. Stephen covey written beautifully, As a human being, we all are blessed with EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT unlike money bank account. A simple logic is, you need to deposit in order to withdraw money from your bank account, isn’t it? and the more you withdraw lesser the balance. Once the account is empty, you can’t withdraw anymore. But, Emotional bank account is not like this, you can keep on withdrawing how much ever you want.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Consuming and Contributing relationship

For example: A child will keep withdrawing emotional attention from a mother and it is a never ending process. But, if the account is not deposited back, it goes into negative balance. I have come across a very interesting example for this. A loving mother used to care for an orphan boy living in a garage next door and both boys grew up playing together. Her son got good education and became a doctor then flew to U S  for a job and he got settled. His mother was alone living here and the boy next door always used to take care of her and serve her with good heart. This mother was so attached to this poor boy that she wrote entire wealth on his name thinking that “my own son is well settled, away and he wouldn’t need any of this when he wouldn’t need me”.

Her son was accused of irregularities and removed from his practice for some reason and his certificates were also taken away by local authorities. His wife (who also happened to be a local citizen) divorced him and he lost all his earning as well in the process of dealing with situations. With this pain he comes back and see his own mother was passed away and wrote all her wealth to the boy used to live in garage.

What does it show? It shows how important is to deposit into emotional bank account with your loved ones.  Her son was so busy in building his career and life that he forgot to love, care and keep the emotional attachment intact and never deposited into his emotional bank account with his mother.

A child is a consuming relationship. In this relationship, you will only see child is withdrawing love, care, energy from it’s mother and when the child grow up, don’t you think he/she must deposit all those withdrawals? When this process happens it’s called “Contributing relationship” so now, check if you are in which category.

In a very interesting relationship of a husband and wife, we become consuming relationship. We keep on expecting some or the other things and keep hurting each other. for ex: If wife likes romantic movies, husband likes action movies and while watching a movie, they both argue for silly reasons. We all must understand that we all are different from each other and we have to respect each other’s opinion if not accept.

You need to check who can make you comfortable, feel good and feel alright during tough times, they are your depositors or contributing relationships. And are you giving small comforts for those contributing relationships?

How can you deposit into emotional bank account?

Its very simple, through all those small actions makes someone comfortable. Lets say your parents love to eat together or like to talk to you, make sure you give time. If your spouse loves to go on long drive or have her favourite dish, give those experiences to him/her.

Keep up all those small commitments that you overlook or ignore thinking “it’s a very small thing, it can be done anytime”. Those small things mean a lot to some one close to you because they keep on adding balance to your emotional account.

If you are a parent, make sure your child gets all the freedom, respect, love and care to explore life. be a CONTRIBUTING RELATIONSHIP as much as possible and you will never have a tough situations with people.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Glarezone 377 – Fine Tuning Life

Fine Tuning Life

Hi,

How are you doing? hope it’s been a good week for you in all the ways..

Let me share something interesting that i learned this week and discovered some new dimensions of comprehending things and situations.

Fine-Tuning

Fine-Tuning

I am running for TCS 10K marathon happening in Bangalore in May. I have been running marathon for the last 2 years and its an amazing experience. I have completed 22K marathon running and I was feeling that i have become a good runner. After 22K marathon, I had become little slow during practices and running sessions.

My coach observed this and he gave a feedback. He said “Sathya, you are good runner however, you begin at good pace and slowing down at the end. It is very important that you run faster at the end in the race and that is what makes you winner. It’s okay to start slow but end faster”

I felt amazing and i applied that during uphill running which made me feel good. I understood it’s essential to get feedback. It is just not feedback, it is FINE-TUNING because I was already a good runner. This made me realize, we get relevant and right feedback in any domain only by an expert.

 

I shared this instance because, people think about everything and go everywhere with judgemental mindset. Last week there was a session arranged by the marathon runners group about diet for upcoming event and they had invited a dietician to take the session. There were about 80 people confirmed their presence and only 20 people turned up. This clearly shows that people judge everything based on either their perception or 1 or 2 instances that they have heard. It was a very helpful session about proper diet and she said “we give diet based on your blood report and not just generalized chart because every human has different diet requirement, specially for runners”. This was not just regular but it was FINE-TUNING the knowledge about the diet.

I just wanted to know if I have implemented FINE-TUNING of attitude at home. I went to drop my daughter to school and while driving I asked her a question “We are living in a good home, have nice vehicle and 2 businesses. So, What would you do when you grow up” and she spontaneously said, I will help as many people as possible paapa because you are earning lot of money” and I understood.

Do you go to people who help you with right feedback and do FINE-TUNING for you? Make sure you listen  to those fine-tuning words that can help you move ahead in life because we get those people very rarely in life. DON’T PREJUDGE ANYTHING

Now that we have understood the importance of FINE-TUNING, I would like to share another instance with you. A lady came to me and said, “I have been trying everything in my life to come out of financial crunch but still no good. I have been implementing everything i learn and still feel i’m failed many times. Why is this happening to me?” I helped her to understand that she is not ready to listen to her own self and cribbing too much inside and I gave many examples to make her understand “DESPERATION DELAYS EVERYTHING”

TIME is an important factor when it comes to manifestation of dreams and desires. Many times we feel we are making a lot of efforts but unable to achieve what is expected. You just have to keep making efforts and result is assured but you would never know when that would come. Keep 30% buffer time for everything. Be it a commitment you made, be it a delivery of product or giving service you have promised or anything for that matter. and one more thing before we finish today – If you are playing a role of FINE-TUNING, you have to understand that people tend to forget everything because time flies and everyone wants to go ahead. So, you may feel people don’t really care for good feedback. It’s you who have determined to help someone. so, FOLLOW UP TILL YOU CATCH UP.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

A new beginning & new ending

Glarezone – 376
Topic: A New Beginning & New Ending

A new beginning & new ending

A new beginning & new ending

Hi,

There were some questions asked by people about pranik healing and reikhi healing. He asked “which healing works? People have confusion about which one to follow”

Well, I say, every healing works Irrespective of the method or process followed. It is just like exercise, ultimate expectation is to get good health. Because human life is always what one makes of it. As Sanskrit slogan says “Yad bhavam tad bhavati”
We spoke about different ways of celebrating birthdays last week. Hope you got an opportunity as well to utilize and make someone’s day happier.

Let me add some more ways of making birthdays even more worthy. You know, sometimes we recall a name that is impossible to forget. Some examples like – a friend helped you in tough time, a teacher guided you in a right way, your relative who consoled you in a sad situation or be it anyone for that matter who made you what you are today. You won’t forget that name till your last breath, isn’t it?

That someone, who will always remain in your heart because of his/her selfless care and love for you. I’m sure you would have a name in your heart by now.

Now, let me ask you some questions. How many lives can you touch in a year? How many people are you supporting like the way you received? Do your parents feel proud of having you as a son/daughter? Can you make your teacher proud of being your teacher? If you are proud of working in a big organization, can you make that organization’s management proud of having you as an employee? These are some of the opportunities of adding value to your life year on year. If you haven’t started yet, you still have time till your birthday.

Now, I read a famous author’s writing in kannada “Manku Timmana Kagga” written by D.V.G. in one of the famous poem, he says
ಹುಲ್ಲಾಗು ಬೆಟ್ಟದಡಿ, ಮನೆಗೆ ಮಲ್ಲಿಗೆಯಾಗು
ಕಲ್ಲಾಗು ಕಷ್ಟಗಳ ಮಳೆಯ ವಿಧಿ ಸುರಿಯೇ
ಬೆಲ್ಲ ಸಕ್ಕರೆಯಾಗು ದೀನ ದುರ್ಬಲರಿಗೆ
ಎಲ್ಲರೊಳಗೊಂದಾಗು ಮಂಕುತಿಮ್ಮ

Translation for those who don’t know kannada

Be a (gentle) blade of grass at the foot of mountain, and jasmine flower at home,
Be (strong) like a rock when fate pours (torrential) rains of difficulties on you,
Be sweet like sugar and jaggery to the poor and weak,
Be one among all, Mankuthimma
This has a lot of meaning and adds wonderful value to human life if adopted and followed. We all can live like this, can’t we?

This is a special time for hindus as it is a beginning of the new year. It is an auspicious festival (Yugadi – start of the new era). Let’s discover something interesting factors about beginning and ending.

How do you start or end anything makes a big difference. Because human mind remembers only the beginning and the ending of everything, take an example of anything for that matter. If you go to a movie, you will only remember the beginning or ending situations of the movie. If you go to any conference, it will be the same. Like this, you may find many examples, let’s say you fight with your spouse and the funny thing is, only the reason to begin or the last word will be remembered (which could be dangerous as well if you are a husband). If you want to correct your employee’s attitude or motivate him/her, it’s very important that you begin and end the conversation on a positive note and make them feel happy and in between, you can certainly give feedback.

Can you influence people by asking positive questions because people answer for what you ask, can you add value to lives with your presence in their lives?

My daughter shared a quote that was written at her school “Don’t cry, it’s over. Feel Happy, It happened” If you have gone through difficult year or a difficult phase of life, remember these words and mark a new beginning to this new year starting from this YUGADI, Wish you all the best.

By
Sathyanarayan V. R.
Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Lord Krishna & Human life

Glarezone – 371

Topic: Lord Krishna & Human life

We are born as human beings and we need to ask questions, find answers and live life journey as a boon. In order to do that, we must understand the truths of life.

One of the essential questions like that “Who is a complete man”?

We may have many answers such as A leader, Inspiring human, A man fulfils all his responsibilities and so on..

Lord Krishna

Lord Krishna

In hindu religion, it’s believed that lord Shri Krishna is a complete man (Purushotham). and it is proven through stories of his life and all stories about krishna and his life journey have a significant impact on human lives. Mahabharat relates to human life in all the aspects even today. Let’s see what are the wonderful points that we can pick up from these stories.

As we at Consumax discuss essential aspects of human life like – Physical mastery, Mental, Emotional, Intellectual, Social & Spiritual mastery, Lord krishna taught this to the world through his own life.

We never see any picture of Krishna with emotions other than gentle smiling face. His pictures, idols and explanations always show that he was always calm, composed and happy all the time. isn’t it? He ruled Dwaraka, Mathura & Brindavan as a king, though he was born in jail. This signifies that a man can be born in any situations but what he makes of his life matters the most. Which many of us failed to do so by keeping excuses that “I was born in a poor family, I didn’t have proper education, I was born in a village and so on..”

Physical mastery: Lord krishna had tremendous control over his physical body.

Krishna always looks gentle, mild and soft but he was so capable of turning his body into a strong diamond when required. We can see this quality from the time he was a child. Be it killing of Poothani, Bakasur & other demons or Be it taming of the great King Kobra “Kalinga” when he was poisoning yamuna.  Kalinga narthana has a very important message about taming our ARISHADVARGAS like “Kama, Krodh, Madha, Moha, Lobh, Matsarya” and taking them to the control can help us to have peaceful life.

Mind Mastery: Entire life of Lord Shri Krishna was so well planned as we can see, his birth was also pre-planned.

A couple of examples of his planning: When shri krishna was attacked by Jarasandha for 17 times, Krishna didn’t kill him. Instead he kept on destroying the entire army of demons. He was clear that Jarasandha will keep uniting demons army and come back for a war and it’s easy to destroy the demons. Kalavayana was one other demon had a boon from brahma that vishnu can’t kill him in any forms. So, Krishna planned so well that he was killed by Muchukunda. During Kurukshetra, Krishna made so many plans and executed all of them in a disciplined manner, tamed all the situations, challenges to uphold the right V/S wrong.

 

Emotional Capability:

Krishna was so well balanced emotionally that nothing ever bothered him or made his smile fade away. He was so well connected to all his friends and Gopikas. When Kuchela comes to krishna seeking for help and brings only 3 fists of poha, he couldn’t ask anything Krishna but Krishna understands everything without telling and he eats the poha brought with love for 3 times and Kuchela becomes so wealthy in no time.

Intellectual Mastery:

Krishna was intellectually above all human beings. There were many situations in Mahabharat which were complex to understand for a normal human beings such as Karna had 3 great boons (Nagastra, Karna Kundala,  Vajra kavacha and Brahmastra). Only Krishna knew that he can be defeated or killed only if he gives away Karna Kundala and Vajra Kavacha. Krishna planned everything to defuse all the powers that karna had and he used Kunti (Karna’s mother) as well. This shows us the great wisdom he had to foresee into the future with the help of meditation and connecting to the universal energy.

Social Life:

Lord Krishna’s characteristics and personality is loved by every human being. He was a great social icon and he was always loved by people. When Kalavayana rages war against Krishna and thinks of destroying whole Brindavan and it’s people, Krishna requests Vishwakarma to build a new city overnight and shifts all the people of Mathura to the new city. When Indra forces Varuna (Rain god) to flood the brindavan to show his powers, Krishna holds Govardhana Parvath on his small finger and rescue all the villagers and animals. This quality shows how Krishna was a protector of the society and he took the responsibility of assuring the best to his people.

Spiritual Ability:

Lord Krishna is called YOGESHWARA for all the following reasons.

He was the creator of YOGA who taught the world about RAJA YOGA, BHAKTHI YOGA,KARMA YOGA & GNANA YOGA.

Lord Krishna’s life journey and stories always teaches that any human being can become a divine soul by practicing all the above characteristics.

Mahabharat has essential message for human life.

Human body & life is explained through Mahabharat. We all have Krishna within us that is our “Wisdom”. We all have 5 senses (PANDAVAS), There is a fickle MIND in every human being (DRAUPADI) and all our problems are KAURAVAS.

Just rewind your life and check how many of these qualities you are practicing during good or bad times in your life, business or relationships and see if you can adopt more to life and make it better.

By

Selvaraj Narayan

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Compromising is required in life or not?

We always DON’T compromise on things or situations where it is not required at all. For ex: We fight over watching favorite TV shows, eating favorite food & going to places which only we demand.
BUT
We COMPROMISE on biggest things in life like choosing right Career, good partner in Marriage and so on….there are things that you can’t change forever and there are things you can from now….

Attend this FREE public program to know the essence of making choices & compromises.

Self-Mastery

Self-Mastery

HUMAN LIFE & PURIFICATION

Glarezone  – 370

Topic: HUMAN LIFE & PURIFICATION

Human Mind always works on what is given to it through 5 senses. So, it’s always what you think and what you give to your mind matters a lot in every action you take followed by results.

Human life & Purification

Human life & Purification

The purest element in the world is SOUL . During the journey of living, Mind keeps getting contaminated through the 5 senses and creates a mask around the soul which decreases the energy of the soul. It will get energized by only timely purification process or we all someday forget the source of energy called SOUL.

for example: If you have a 2 or 4 wheeler vehicle, what happens if you don’t service the vehicle after it’s due time? you keep driving it for thousands of KMs without a service, What happens then? It slowly develops noisy engine, fear of breaking down, weak breaks and you can’t enjoy the ride at all. Like it’s important for a vehicle to be taken care periodically, we must take care of our mind and soul.

There are 10 different types of purifications that can make our lives heavenly and smooth journey.

1. Physical Body is purified by WATER & EXERCISE

We all go through the journey of life in this vehicle called body. It is purified by water & exercise. As we all know, 78% of the earth filled with water and look at the science of human body as well. On an average 72% of the human body filled with fluids and water. All researches and experiments have proven the importance of drinking water. Drinking a ltr of water in the early morning will settle down all chemicals released through digestion and de-toxify the entire body. every cell is rejuvenated and energized for a whole day. If you don’t have the practice, start from today.

Exercise is another form which makes you swet and takes out all toxics from the body.

2. Breathe is purified by PRANAYAM

People living in the city go through many ailments of breathing problems because of increased amount of carbon dioxide in the environment. Practice pranayam early in the morning (before 8am) and you will experience the difference. Your eyes will sparkle and skin glows.

3. Mind gets purified by CHANTING & MEDITATION

Mind generates 60 thousand thoughts a day. Chanting will bring the mind to focus & meditation will help to decrease the number of thoughts generated so that peace of mind is attained.

4. Intelligence gets purified by KNOWLEDGE

Intelligence is a natural guiding force or faculty that shows right & wrong (inner voice that always shows what is right). We always have confusion in following natural laws. for ex: Speed is dangerous, there is a contradictory law says what is the use of buying ticket after the train takes off. Many situations present a challenge in choosing what is right. Only RIGHT KNOWLEDGE can help us to choose what is right. So, read more books, seek for knowledge about anything that you want to learn.

5. Memory gets purified by MANAN & CHINTAN

What if there was no concept called memory and we all forget everything after a sleep? Unimaginable isn’t it. But, same memory has to be purified through review and contemplation. Remove unwanted memories of incidents, situations or experiences stored in the mind and release yourself from the clutches of emotions attached to those experiences.

6. EGO gets purified by SEVA/SERVING

We all really feel happy from inside when we serve someone without any expectations. If you feel, you are superior anytime, you will start losing the creative energy and people around you. So, howmuch ever you serve is always less. If you haven’t done it so far, start from home. start serving your own parents or close relatives who care for you.

7. Self gets purified by SILENCE.

When the mind is silent, it starts becoming more powerful and focused about taking next action for making lives better. Practice being silent at least an hour every day and you can see the difference.

8. Food gets purified by POSITIVE THOUGHTS WHILE COOKING & EATING

It always matter how the food is cooked. You may have eaten food in many places but you will feel fulfilled only with the home made food because with all the ingredients an essential aroma is added to the food called LOVE. When mother/granny/wife/sister cooks the food, they add their feeling and love to the food which makes it special.

9. Wealth is purified by DONATING / GIVING

As wealth gets accumulated, it brings great amount of fear as well for many people. This fear comes only when the person feels “I have money which is not mine or which i don’t deserve”. People who become wealthy by hard efforts will never feel scared of wealth.

10. FEELINGS / BHAV is purified by LOVE

Unconditional love is the only way of purifying the feelings about anyone in this world. Anything we have today was not with us when we were not born. Start LOVING every one who comes into your life and you will not have enmity with anyone in this world and it purifies your feelings about everything and everyone.

 

By

Sathyanarayana V. R.

Founder & Master Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Stories – An art of Communication

Stories - an art of communication

Stories – an art of communication

Stories – an art of communication

Glarezone  – 370

Do you have problem with conveying your ideas with others? Do you feel no one understand what are you talking about? Do you blame anyone of not doing things as expected? then, you really have to do something about it. isn’t it?

Kids, Adults, Elders – irrespective of age, gender or religion, all get attracted to stories in fraction of seconds. If you have read about legendary people in books, you would have noticed that they were told stories by their mothers, fathers and grannies which created lasting impact on their lives and it became an inevitable value of their lives.

We all get excited to listen to stories. But we find the story interesting or impactful only when it reaches to our imagination and creates pictures in our eyes. How does this happen? Just think for a while. We all are wonderful story tellers when it comes to escaping responsibilities or while giving excuses to someone for not fulfilling any promise and many times we get caught of lying as well.

We all would have heard some stories in our childhood which made a great impact on our lives and changed the way we were living. isn’t it? can you tell the story to someone and give the same impact which you received from your elder?

Story-telling is an art of communication that can get the things done in expected manner. You have to tell your own story effectively with all the required essential aspects of your life for some one to understand you completely and it is just not story telling.

There are many important factors that you need to consider to make your story effective and impactful what are those?

Appropriate expressions

Body Language

Tone

Feeling

Building curiosity in the audience

Opening & Closing

Imagination, Timing and Action

Moral of the story

 

All of these factors only can make your story more effective. Now, lets see how do we use it in day to day life.

 

If you are a Businessman, You have to present your product or service to your customer with all these essential factors or you find it difficult to sell any products/services. If you are a parent, you have to make sure you capture your children’s attention to make them listen to what you have to say and give them the right morals to build strong life values. If you are a housewife, you have to add all these flavours to your conversation to make relationships happier and build good bondage. If you are a professional, along with all the knowledge you have, you need to develop this strong skill called presentation to keep growing in your profession.

 

Skill-set is developed only by training and practice. Get trainings from experts or teachers or coaches to become the best.

 

By,

Sathya Narayana V R

Founder & Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt ltd.