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Consuming and Contributing relationship.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Hi,

Every glarezone has been adding value to many lives and enhancing wisdom for all of us. Today I love to share something very new about relationship.

We all play number of roles in life and every minute we may have a new role added to life. Let’s take out couple of minutes and recall all our relationships around us. Starting from first circle relationships with intense emotions to a far relationship like some of your forgotten child hood friend, an employee or colleague who worked with you long time ago.

You will have a big list of names and people coming up. Now, let’s do a small exercise. How many relationships are adding value to your life through any means because today we will understand two very important categories of relationships.

Some examples: I have a watsapp group created by my old friends and they keep posting messages, i only reply sometimes and sometimes i don’t. So, in this relationship they are adding value to my life.

I am an important part of the family so, I take care of the needs of family members and in this relationship, I am adding value to those lives.

I am reading a famous book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” and Dr. Stephen covey written beautifully, As a human being, we all are blessed with EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT unlike money bank account. A simple logic is, you need to deposit in order to withdraw money from your bank account, isn’t it? and the more you withdraw lesser the balance. Once the account is empty, you can’t withdraw anymore. But, Emotional bank account is not like this, you can keep on withdrawing how much ever you want.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Consuming and Contributing relationship

For example: A child will keep withdrawing emotional attention from a mother and it is a never ending process. But, if the account is not deposited back, it goes into negative balance. I have come across a very interesting example for this. A loving mother used to care for an orphan boy living in a garage next door and both boys grew up playing together. Her son got good education and became a doctor then flew to U S  for a job and he got settled. His mother was alone living here and the boy next door always used to take care of her and serve her with good heart. This mother was so attached to this poor boy that she wrote entire wealth on his name thinking that “my own son is well settled, away and he wouldn’t need any of this when he wouldn’t need me”.

Her son was accused of irregularities and removed from his practice for some reason and his certificates were also taken away by local authorities. His wife (who also happened to be a local citizen) divorced him and he lost all his earning as well in the process of dealing with situations. With this pain he comes back and see his own mother was passed away and wrote all her wealth to the boy used to live in garage.

What does it show? It shows how important is to deposit into emotional bank account with your loved ones.  Her son was so busy in building his career and life that he forgot to love, care and keep the emotional attachment intact and never deposited into his emotional bank account with his mother.

A child is a consuming relationship. In this relationship, you will only see child is withdrawing love, care, energy from it’s mother and when the child grow up, don’t you think he/she must deposit all those withdrawals? When this process happens it’s called “Contributing relationship” so now, check if you are in which category.

In a very interesting relationship of a husband and wife, we become consuming relationship. We keep on expecting some or the other things and keep hurting each other. for ex: If wife likes romantic movies, husband likes action movies and while watching a movie, they both argue for silly reasons. We all must understand that we all are different from each other and we have to respect each other’s opinion if not accept.

You need to check who can make you comfortable, feel good and feel alright during tough times, they are your depositors or contributing relationships. And are you giving small comforts for those contributing relationships?

How can you deposit into emotional bank account?

Its very simple, through all those small actions makes someone comfortable. Lets say your parents love to eat together or like to talk to you, make sure you give time. If your spouse loves to go on long drive or have her favourite dish, give those experiences to him/her.

Keep up all those small commitments that you overlook or ignore thinking “it’s a very small thing, it can be done anytime”. Those small things mean a lot to some one close to you because they keep on adding balance to your emotional account.

If you are a parent, make sure your child gets all the freedom, respect, love and care to explore life. be a CONTRIBUTING RELATIONSHIP as much as possible and you will never have a tough situations with people.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

A new beginning & new ending

Glarezone – 376
Topic: A New Beginning & New Ending

A new beginning & new ending

A new beginning & new ending

Hi,

There were some questions asked by people about pranik healing and reikhi healing. He asked “which healing works? People have confusion about which one to follow”

Well, I say, every healing works Irrespective of the method or process followed. It is just like exercise, ultimate expectation is to get good health. Because human life is always what one makes of it. As Sanskrit slogan says “Yad bhavam tad bhavati”
We spoke about different ways of celebrating birthdays last week. Hope you got an opportunity as well to utilize and make someone’s day happier.

Let me add some more ways of making birthdays even more worthy. You know, sometimes we recall a name that is impossible to forget. Some examples like – a friend helped you in tough time, a teacher guided you in a right way, your relative who consoled you in a sad situation or be it anyone for that matter who made you what you are today. You won’t forget that name till your last breath, isn’t it?

That someone, who will always remain in your heart because of his/her selfless care and love for you. I’m sure you would have a name in your heart by now.

Now, let me ask you some questions. How many lives can you touch in a year? How many people are you supporting like the way you received? Do your parents feel proud of having you as a son/daughter? Can you make your teacher proud of being your teacher? If you are proud of working in a big organization, can you make that organization’s management proud of having you as an employee? These are some of the opportunities of adding value to your life year on year. If you haven’t started yet, you still have time till your birthday.

Now, I read a famous author’s writing in kannada “Manku Timmana Kagga” written by D.V.G. in one of the famous poem, he says
ಹುಲ್ಲಾಗು ಬೆಟ್ಟದಡಿ, ಮನೆಗೆ ಮಲ್ಲಿಗೆಯಾಗು
ಕಲ್ಲಾಗು ಕಷ್ಟಗಳ ಮಳೆಯ ವಿಧಿ ಸುರಿಯೇ
ಬೆಲ್ಲ ಸಕ್ಕರೆಯಾಗು ದೀನ ದುರ್ಬಲರಿಗೆ
ಎಲ್ಲರೊಳಗೊಂದಾಗು ಮಂಕುತಿಮ್ಮ

Translation for those who don’t know kannada

Be a (gentle) blade of grass at the foot of mountain, and jasmine flower at home,
Be (strong) like a rock when fate pours (torrential) rains of difficulties on you,
Be sweet like sugar and jaggery to the poor and weak,
Be one among all, Mankuthimma
This has a lot of meaning and adds wonderful value to human life if adopted and followed. We all can live like this, can’t we?

This is a special time for hindus as it is a beginning of the new year. It is an auspicious festival (Yugadi – start of the new era). Let’s discover something interesting factors about beginning and ending.

How do you start or end anything makes a big difference. Because human mind remembers only the beginning and the ending of everything, take an example of anything for that matter. If you go to a movie, you will only remember the beginning or ending situations of the movie. If you go to any conference, it will be the same. Like this, you may find many examples, let’s say you fight with your spouse and the funny thing is, only the reason to begin or the last word will be remembered (which could be dangerous as well if you are a husband). If you want to correct your employee’s attitude or motivate him/her, it’s very important that you begin and end the conversation on a positive note and make them feel happy and in between, you can certainly give feedback.

Can you influence people by asking positive questions because people answer for what you ask, can you add value to lives with your presence in their lives?

My daughter shared a quote that was written at her school “Don’t cry, it’s over. Feel Happy, It happened” If you have gone through difficult year or a difficult phase of life, remember these words and mark a new beginning to this new year starting from this YUGADI, Wish you all the best.

By
Sathyanarayan V. R.
Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

LOVE & LIVE

Topic: LOVE & LIVE

Let’s start with the story today.

Love & Live

Love & Live

A Businessman goes into deep financial losses and he becomes depressed and thinks about committing suicide sitting on a park bench. He keeps thinking different ways of killing himself. Meanwhile an old man come to him and asks “why are you sitting like this?” but Businessman does not reply to his question, this old man is so persistent that he says “tell me what is the your problem and i can solve it, I am WARREN BUFFET”. Businessman feels he can share his trouble and he explains everything to the old man. After listening to everything, old man opens a cheque book and gives a cheque worth 1 million dollars and says “use this money and if you become successful, you can return it to me or you can keep it”.

Businessman feels happy but he starts thinking, “why should i use this money, this is not mine” and he starts thinking about what is the real problem and how can he come out of it through planning and action. Finally, he decides not to use the money and set up an action plan and works on it. He successfully clears all his loans in 6 months and set up a successful business. Then he comes back to the same park and sits on the same bench, expecting the old man to appear to handover his cheque. An old man comes running into the park and 2 people dressed in white clothes are chasing him. Businessman asks this old man “what happened and why are you running?” mean while others hold the old man and asks businessman “Did he say, he can help you? and he is warren buffet and did he give you a cheque?” Businessman says “YES, but what happened?”. People dressed in white say “This guy is a retard and he keeps escaping from mental hospital next door and comes to this park, then he start giving cheque leaf to people like this”

What do you understand from this story?

Everything was there inside the Businessman, but he had lost faith. He didn’t believe that there is support available outside and he was struggling to love himself. The moment he regained the faith inside, he didn’t need help. It is only the faith of getting support from outside made him to gain the confidence and guts to change his life.

A biggest limitation that all humans have is “we never know the value of anything until we lose it” Love for self is also the same, and the story above is just an example. Not only our feelings, if we don’t love self, we knowingly ignore health, relationships & responsibilities. so, LOVE YOURSELF.

What is LOVE?

 

A mother always cares for her child no matter how the child is. A sister asks her brother “why are you looking so dull? let’s go for dinner or i’ll cook something for you? A brother consoles his younger/elder brother by saying “don’t worry, i’ll help you solve this problem” and in the same way – husband, in-laws & everyone shower love on us.

But, we keep definitions about love based on many perceptions and expectations. Everyone expects someone else to express love towards them. But, everyone also feels “i don’t have to say it. he / she has to understand, Love is not expressed directly” isn’t it?

Everyone has their own ways of showing love to someone they care for. But we all expect something else and crib about it without understanding the expressions. even GOD loves us but we blame him when we run into difficulties. so, LOVE EVERYONE around you.

for ex: When a child starts crawling for the first time and trying to reach a toy, parents keep that toy little far so that the child should learn to stretch itself, isn’t it? God is a father who knows his child can stretch and reach to anything it wants so he gives small successes very soon and makes us go through difficulties to get bigger things in life.

When you LOVE LIFE, there is always uncertainty & insecurity, no one lives life without challenges and challenges make us stronger and break the limitations, comfort zones and bring better life. so LOVE CHALLENGES.

LOVE OTHERS by listening to them without any distractions and express your love and care for them. If you don’t express your love, no one will come to know about it because it’s human limitation.

Some other ways we see the expressions of love are

If a boss pays salary to all his employees on time, he loves his employees. If an employee come to office on all working days without any excuses or despite of health issues, he loves his job and his work.

A child asked god “if everything is written in my fate, why should i prey again?” and god said “Son, it’s true but also in the same page, i have also written “LIVE AS YOU WISH”

So LIFE is always what you make of it. give maximum LOVE to everyone in life so that you can also LIVE AS YOU WISH.

 

BY

Sathyanarayana V.R.

Founder & Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Compromising is required in life or not?

We always DON’T compromise on things or situations where it is not required at all. For ex: We fight over watching favorite TV shows, eating favorite food & going to places which only we demand.
BUT
We COMPROMISE on biggest things in life like choosing right Career, good partner in Marriage and so on….there are things that you can’t change forever and there are things you can from now….

Attend this FREE public program to know the essence of making choices & compromises.

Self-Mastery

Self-Mastery

HUMAN LIFE & PURIFICATION

Glarezone  – 370

Topic: HUMAN LIFE & PURIFICATION

Human Mind always works on what is given to it through 5 senses. So, it’s always what you think and what you give to your mind matters a lot in every action you take followed by results.

Human life & Purification

Human life & Purification

The purest element in the world is SOUL . During the journey of living, Mind keeps getting contaminated through the 5 senses and creates a mask around the soul which decreases the energy of the soul. It will get energized by only timely purification process or we all someday forget the source of energy called SOUL.

for example: If you have a 2 or 4 wheeler vehicle, what happens if you don’t service the vehicle after it’s due time? you keep driving it for thousands of KMs without a service, What happens then? It slowly develops noisy engine, fear of breaking down, weak breaks and you can’t enjoy the ride at all. Like it’s important for a vehicle to be taken care periodically, we must take care of our mind and soul.

There are 10 different types of purifications that can make our lives heavenly and smooth journey.

1. Physical Body is purified by WATER & EXERCISE

We all go through the journey of life in this vehicle called body. It is purified by water & exercise. As we all know, 78% of the earth filled with water and look at the science of human body as well. On an average 72% of the human body filled with fluids and water. All researches and experiments have proven the importance of drinking water. Drinking a ltr of water in the early morning will settle down all chemicals released through digestion and de-toxify the entire body. every cell is rejuvenated and energized for a whole day. If you don’t have the practice, start from today.

Exercise is another form which makes you swet and takes out all toxics from the body.

2. Breathe is purified by PRANAYAM

People living in the city go through many ailments of breathing problems because of increased amount of carbon dioxide in the environment. Practice pranayam early in the morning (before 8am) and you will experience the difference. Your eyes will sparkle and skin glows.

3. Mind gets purified by CHANTING & MEDITATION

Mind generates 60 thousand thoughts a day. Chanting will bring the mind to focus & meditation will help to decrease the number of thoughts generated so that peace of mind is attained.

4. Intelligence gets purified by KNOWLEDGE

Intelligence is a natural guiding force or faculty that shows right & wrong (inner voice that always shows what is right). We always have confusion in following natural laws. for ex: Speed is dangerous, there is a contradictory law says what is the use of buying ticket after the train takes off. Many situations present a challenge in choosing what is right. Only RIGHT KNOWLEDGE can help us to choose what is right. So, read more books, seek for knowledge about anything that you want to learn.

5. Memory gets purified by MANAN & CHINTAN

What if there was no concept called memory and we all forget everything after a sleep? Unimaginable isn’t it. But, same memory has to be purified through review and contemplation. Remove unwanted memories of incidents, situations or experiences stored in the mind and release yourself from the clutches of emotions attached to those experiences.

6. EGO gets purified by SEVA/SERVING

We all really feel happy from inside when we serve someone without any expectations. If you feel, you are superior anytime, you will start losing the creative energy and people around you. So, howmuch ever you serve is always less. If you haven’t done it so far, start from home. start serving your own parents or close relatives who care for you.

7. Self gets purified by SILENCE.

When the mind is silent, it starts becoming more powerful and focused about taking next action for making lives better. Practice being silent at least an hour every day and you can see the difference.

8. Food gets purified by POSITIVE THOUGHTS WHILE COOKING & EATING

It always matter how the food is cooked. You may have eaten food in many places but you will feel fulfilled only with the home made food because with all the ingredients an essential aroma is added to the food called LOVE. When mother/granny/wife/sister cooks the food, they add their feeling and love to the food which makes it special.

9. Wealth is purified by DONATING / GIVING

As wealth gets accumulated, it brings great amount of fear as well for many people. This fear comes only when the person feels “I have money which is not mine or which i don’t deserve”. People who become wealthy by hard efforts will never feel scared of wealth.

10. FEELINGS / BHAV is purified by LOVE

Unconditional love is the only way of purifying the feelings about anyone in this world. Anything we have today was not with us when we were not born. Start LOVING every one who comes into your life and you will not have enmity with anyone in this world and it purifies your feelings about everything and everyone.

 

By

Sathyanarayana V. R.

Founder & Master Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Stories – An art of Communication

Stories - an art of communication

Stories – an art of communication

Stories – an art of communication

Glarezone  – 370

Do you have problem with conveying your ideas with others? Do you feel no one understand what are you talking about? Do you blame anyone of not doing things as expected? then, you really have to do something about it. isn’t it?

Kids, Adults, Elders – irrespective of age, gender or religion, all get attracted to stories in fraction of seconds. If you have read about legendary people in books, you would have noticed that they were told stories by their mothers, fathers and grannies which created lasting impact on their lives and it became an inevitable value of their lives.

We all get excited to listen to stories. But we find the story interesting or impactful only when it reaches to our imagination and creates pictures in our eyes. How does this happen? Just think for a while. We all are wonderful story tellers when it comes to escaping responsibilities or while giving excuses to someone for not fulfilling any promise and many times we get caught of lying as well.

We all would have heard some stories in our childhood which made a great impact on our lives and changed the way we were living. isn’t it? can you tell the story to someone and give the same impact which you received from your elder?

Story-telling is an art of communication that can get the things done in expected manner. You have to tell your own story effectively with all the required essential aspects of your life for some one to understand you completely and it is just not story telling.

There are many important factors that you need to consider to make your story effective and impactful what are those?

Appropriate expressions

Body Language

Tone

Feeling

Building curiosity in the audience

Opening & Closing

Imagination, Timing and Action

Moral of the story

 

All of these factors only can make your story more effective. Now, lets see how do we use it in day to day life.

 

If you are a Businessman, You have to present your product or service to your customer with all these essential factors or you find it difficult to sell any products/services. If you are a parent, you have to make sure you capture your children’s attention to make them listen to what you have to say and give them the right morals to build strong life values. If you are a housewife, you have to add all these flavours to your conversation to make relationships happier and build good bondage. If you are a professional, along with all the knowledge you have, you need to develop this strong skill called presentation to keep growing in your profession.

 

Skill-set is developed only by training and practice. Get trainings from experts or teachers or coaches to become the best.

 

By,

Sathya Narayana V R

Founder & Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt ltd.

Purpose of life & Growth

Purpose of life & Growth

Why do you do anything you are doing now?

Purpose of life & Growth

Purpose of life & Growth

You may have too many reasons to continue with what you are doing now but, DO YOU HAVE ONE OBJECTIVE to accomplish? Why do we need an objective?

Any action or journey will have fluctuations, difficulties and many challenges to confront before we reach any of our goals and in this process, there will be many situations that make us diverted from the purpose and lose interest to continue the same action. This will be the biggest reason for failure or non-achievement.

If the purpose is set, it is easy to accomplish anything. What is the difference between purpose and accomplishment?

For example: Why are you working in your present job or business? This question will make you think about the purpose. You may get lot of answers but you have to identify one purpose of taking any actions. If the purpose is to earn enough money to build own house, all the actions should be directed towards the purpose and when you have built your home, that will be the accomplishment.
Defining what you want from every action will give you firm decision and you will accomplish desired goal by following the firm decision.

Why do we eat every day?
It is to fill stomach and satisfy hunger. So, we all know that food is required for generating energy and it is a source of energy. Isn’t it? But, sometimes we suffer from bad stomach, acidity and the same food is the reason for the illness. It is clear that even food can become poison if not understood or eaten with awareness.
We all know, Mind is more vulnerable than physical body. Mind gets corrupted in just a second or by just a single word. Body can be healed but not the mind. We all know mind is very powerful that it can achieve anything. But, that is possible only when mind is fed with right food. If we keep on feeding wrong food without awareness and expect right things to happen, it is foolishness.

We must ask this question. Are we feeding right food to our mind? What are the sources of food for mind? What are the factors that we need to understand about feeding right food to mind? here is the answers

Mind gets food from following sources.
1. Environment

Most of us grown from poor financial environment in families. This will have an impact even after we grow to certain extent in life. Environment is the foundation for entire life because whatever we learn during 0-10years of age will build a belief system. Since most of us have seen difficult life at early stages of life, we live in the same mental environment. for ex: looking for low cost products, bargaining for everything and feeling sad to spend money these are the mental environment developed because of poverty.
How to change it? as generally said, we have to start thinking rich. not only that really!.. then what is the food for mind? We have to experience richness. So, change the inner environment and change experiences.

Self-Dependency.
We all work by ourselves for everything from the childhood. We become very good at working on something assigned to us but we fail to make someone work for us and this builds a conditioning that only what if i work, things will happen or nothing goes well. it is a belief and keep working with this belief even after starting career or business.
Give your mind a belief of making most of your time by delegating regular works and that is food for mind.

Limited Beliefs.
We got many conditions in mind. Like, I am unchangeable, I am always right or I can’t earn lot of money and so on…
whole country is growing and because of only our beliefs, we struggle to get what we want and this is another limiting factor which is fed to mind. So, what is the new food that you have to fee to your mind? change these limited beliefs into Unconditional faith

2. EDUCATION
What is our education system teaching us?
Education system is not only academics, it is everything we learn from anyone around us. The system teaches Hard work is the only way to succeed in life. But, it does not teach us what kind of hard work should be done. More than hard work we have to work right! Working right is nothing but understanding what action can give you the growth you want to achieve. Because there are millions of people believe in hard work but they work hard throughout their lives yet live poor.
Change this Hard work to WORK RIGHT by defining purpose and accomplishment.

Satisfaction:
Anyone who has started life from poor background starts a business and makes it successful to a certain extent of earning little more than enough money to lead life will make him SATISFIED businessperson. This will only make him stagnant and not to enhance his business further. Stay hungry is the only food that you can give to your mind for continuous improvement.
There are many other factors which make us not to have purpose in life and growth becomes a mere luck. Turn all challenges into opportunities by asking a simple question; WHAT MORE CAN I DO FOR ANYTHING. Life is enjoyable when you build it with SELF-MASTERY.

By
Sathya Narayana V R
Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.