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Consuming and Contributing relationship.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Hi,

Every glarezone has been adding value to many lives and enhancing wisdom for all of us. Today I love to share something very new about relationship.

We all play number of roles in life and every minute we may have a new role added to life. Let’s take out couple of minutes and recall all our relationships around us. Starting from first circle relationships with intense emotions to a far relationship like some of your forgotten child hood friend, an employee or colleague who worked with you long time ago.

You will have a big list of names and people coming up. Now, let’s do a small exercise. How many relationships are adding value to your life through any means because today we will understand two very important categories of relationships.

Some examples: I have a watsapp group created by my old friends and they keep posting messages, i only reply sometimes and sometimes i don’t. So, in this relationship they are adding value to my life.

I am an important part of the family so, I take care of the needs of family members and in this relationship, I am adding value to those lives.

I am reading a famous book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” and Dr. Stephen covey written beautifully, As a human being, we all are blessed with EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT unlike money bank account. A simple logic is, you need to deposit in order to withdraw money from your bank account, isn’t it? and the more you withdraw lesser the balance. Once the account is empty, you can’t withdraw anymore. But, Emotional bank account is not like this, you can keep on withdrawing how much ever you want.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Consuming and Contributing relationship

For example: A child will keep withdrawing emotional attention from a mother and it is a never ending process. But, if the account is not deposited back, it goes into negative balance. I have come across a very interesting example for this. A loving mother used to care for an orphan boy living in a garage next door and both boys grew up playing together. Her son got good education and became a doctor then flew to U S  for a job and he got settled. His mother was alone living here and the boy next door always used to take care of her and serve her with good heart. This mother was so attached to this poor boy that she wrote entire wealth on his name thinking that “my own son is well settled, away and he wouldn’t need any of this when he wouldn’t need me”.

Her son was accused of irregularities and removed from his practice for some reason and his certificates were also taken away by local authorities. His wife (who also happened to be a local citizen) divorced him and he lost all his earning as well in the process of dealing with situations. With this pain he comes back and see his own mother was passed away and wrote all her wealth to the boy used to live in garage.

What does it show? It shows how important is to deposit into emotional bank account with your loved ones.  Her son was so busy in building his career and life that he forgot to love, care and keep the emotional attachment intact and never deposited into his emotional bank account with his mother.

A child is a consuming relationship. In this relationship, you will only see child is withdrawing love, care, energy from it’s mother and when the child grow up, don’t you think he/she must deposit all those withdrawals? When this process happens it’s called “Contributing relationship” so now, check if you are in which category.

In a very interesting relationship of a husband and wife, we become consuming relationship. We keep on expecting some or the other things and keep hurting each other. for ex: If wife likes romantic movies, husband likes action movies and while watching a movie, they both argue for silly reasons. We all must understand that we all are different from each other and we have to respect each other’s opinion if not accept.

You need to check who can make you comfortable, feel good and feel alright during tough times, they are your depositors or contributing relationships. And are you giving small comforts for those contributing relationships?

How can you deposit into emotional bank account?

Its very simple, through all those small actions makes someone comfortable. Lets say your parents love to eat together or like to talk to you, make sure you give time. If your spouse loves to go on long drive or have her favourite dish, give those experiences to him/her.

Keep up all those small commitments that you overlook or ignore thinking “it’s a very small thing, it can be done anytime”. Those small things mean a lot to some one close to you because they keep on adding balance to your emotional account.

If you are a parent, make sure your child gets all the freedom, respect, love and care to explore life. be a CONTRIBUTING RELATIONSHIP as much as possible and you will never have a tough situations with people.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Lord Krishna & Human life

Glarezone – 371

Topic: Lord Krishna & Human life

We are born as human beings and we need to ask questions, find answers and live life journey as a boon. In order to do that, we must understand the truths of life.

One of the essential questions like that “Who is a complete man”?

We may have many answers such as A leader, Inspiring human, A man fulfils all his responsibilities and so on..

Lord Krishna

Lord Krishna

In hindu religion, it’s believed that lord Shri Krishna is a complete man (Purushotham). and it is proven through stories of his life and all stories about krishna and his life journey have a significant impact on human lives. Mahabharat relates to human life in all the aspects even today. Let’s see what are the wonderful points that we can pick up from these stories.

As we at Consumax discuss essential aspects of human life like – Physical mastery, Mental, Emotional, Intellectual, Social & Spiritual mastery, Lord krishna taught this to the world through his own life.

We never see any picture of Krishna with emotions other than gentle smiling face. His pictures, idols and explanations always show that he was always calm, composed and happy all the time. isn’t it? He ruled Dwaraka, Mathura & Brindavan as a king, though he was born in jail. This signifies that a man can be born in any situations but what he makes of his life matters the most. Which many of us failed to do so by keeping excuses that “I was born in a poor family, I didn’t have proper education, I was born in a village and so on..”

Physical mastery: Lord krishna had tremendous control over his physical body.

Krishna always looks gentle, mild and soft but he was so capable of turning his body into a strong diamond when required. We can see this quality from the time he was a child. Be it killing of Poothani, Bakasur & other demons or Be it taming of the great King Kobra “Kalinga” when he was poisoning yamuna.  Kalinga narthana has a very important message about taming our ARISHADVARGAS like “Kama, Krodh, Madha, Moha, Lobh, Matsarya” and taking them to the control can help us to have peaceful life.

Mind Mastery: Entire life of Lord Shri Krishna was so well planned as we can see, his birth was also pre-planned.

A couple of examples of his planning: When shri krishna was attacked by Jarasandha for 17 times, Krishna didn’t kill him. Instead he kept on destroying the entire army of demons. He was clear that Jarasandha will keep uniting demons army and come back for a war and it’s easy to destroy the demons. Kalavayana was one other demon had a boon from brahma that vishnu can’t kill him in any forms. So, Krishna planned so well that he was killed by Muchukunda. During Kurukshetra, Krishna made so many plans and executed all of them in a disciplined manner, tamed all the situations, challenges to uphold the right V/S wrong.

 

Emotional Capability:

Krishna was so well balanced emotionally that nothing ever bothered him or made his smile fade away. He was so well connected to all his friends and Gopikas. When Kuchela comes to krishna seeking for help and brings only 3 fists of poha, he couldn’t ask anything Krishna but Krishna understands everything without telling and he eats the poha brought with love for 3 times and Kuchela becomes so wealthy in no time.

Intellectual Mastery:

Krishna was intellectually above all human beings. There were many situations in Mahabharat which were complex to understand for a normal human beings such as Karna had 3 great boons (Nagastra, Karna Kundala,  Vajra kavacha and Brahmastra). Only Krishna knew that he can be defeated or killed only if he gives away Karna Kundala and Vajra Kavacha. Krishna planned everything to defuse all the powers that karna had and he used Kunti (Karna’s mother) as well. This shows us the great wisdom he had to foresee into the future with the help of meditation and connecting to the universal energy.

Social Life:

Lord Krishna’s characteristics and personality is loved by every human being. He was a great social icon and he was always loved by people. When Kalavayana rages war against Krishna and thinks of destroying whole Brindavan and it’s people, Krishna requests Vishwakarma to build a new city overnight and shifts all the people of Mathura to the new city. When Indra forces Varuna (Rain god) to flood the brindavan to show his powers, Krishna holds Govardhana Parvath on his small finger and rescue all the villagers and animals. This quality shows how Krishna was a protector of the society and he took the responsibility of assuring the best to his people.

Spiritual Ability:

Lord Krishna is called YOGESHWARA for all the following reasons.

He was the creator of YOGA who taught the world about RAJA YOGA, BHAKTHI YOGA,KARMA YOGA & GNANA YOGA.

Lord Krishna’s life journey and stories always teaches that any human being can become a divine soul by practicing all the above characteristics.

Mahabharat has essential message for human life.

Human body & life is explained through Mahabharat. We all have Krishna within us that is our “Wisdom”. We all have 5 senses (PANDAVAS), There is a fickle MIND in every human being (DRAUPADI) and all our problems are KAURAVAS.

Just rewind your life and check how many of these qualities you are practicing during good or bad times in your life, business or relationships and see if you can adopt more to life and make it better.

By

Selvaraj Narayan

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

LOVE & LIVE

Topic: LOVE & LIVE

Let’s start with the story today.

Love & Live

Love & Live

A Businessman goes into deep financial losses and he becomes depressed and thinks about committing suicide sitting on a park bench. He keeps thinking different ways of killing himself. Meanwhile an old man come to him and asks “why are you sitting like this?” but Businessman does not reply to his question, this old man is so persistent that he says “tell me what is the your problem and i can solve it, I am WARREN BUFFET”. Businessman feels he can share his trouble and he explains everything to the old man. After listening to everything, old man opens a cheque book and gives a cheque worth 1 million dollars and says “use this money and if you become successful, you can return it to me or you can keep it”.

Businessman feels happy but he starts thinking, “why should i use this money, this is not mine” and he starts thinking about what is the real problem and how can he come out of it through planning and action. Finally, he decides not to use the money and set up an action plan and works on it. He successfully clears all his loans in 6 months and set up a successful business. Then he comes back to the same park and sits on the same bench, expecting the old man to appear to handover his cheque. An old man comes running into the park and 2 people dressed in white clothes are chasing him. Businessman asks this old man “what happened and why are you running?” mean while others hold the old man and asks businessman “Did he say, he can help you? and he is warren buffet and did he give you a cheque?” Businessman says “YES, but what happened?”. People dressed in white say “This guy is a retard and he keeps escaping from mental hospital next door and comes to this park, then he start giving cheque leaf to people like this”

What do you understand from this story?

Everything was there inside the Businessman, but he had lost faith. He didn’t believe that there is support available outside and he was struggling to love himself. The moment he regained the faith inside, he didn’t need help. It is only the faith of getting support from outside made him to gain the confidence and guts to change his life.

A biggest limitation that all humans have is “we never know the value of anything until we lose it” Love for self is also the same, and the story above is just an example. Not only our feelings, if we don’t love self, we knowingly ignore health, relationships & responsibilities. so, LOVE YOURSELF.

What is LOVE?

 

A mother always cares for her child no matter how the child is. A sister asks her brother “why are you looking so dull? let’s go for dinner or i’ll cook something for you? A brother consoles his younger/elder brother by saying “don’t worry, i’ll help you solve this problem” and in the same way – husband, in-laws & everyone shower love on us.

But, we keep definitions about love based on many perceptions and expectations. Everyone expects someone else to express love towards them. But, everyone also feels “i don’t have to say it. he / she has to understand, Love is not expressed directly” isn’t it?

Everyone has their own ways of showing love to someone they care for. But we all expect something else and crib about it without understanding the expressions. even GOD loves us but we blame him when we run into difficulties. so, LOVE EVERYONE around you.

for ex: When a child starts crawling for the first time and trying to reach a toy, parents keep that toy little far so that the child should learn to stretch itself, isn’t it? God is a father who knows his child can stretch and reach to anything it wants so he gives small successes very soon and makes us go through difficulties to get bigger things in life.

When you LOVE LIFE, there is always uncertainty & insecurity, no one lives life without challenges and challenges make us stronger and break the limitations, comfort zones and bring better life. so LOVE CHALLENGES.

LOVE OTHERS by listening to them without any distractions and express your love and care for them. If you don’t express your love, no one will come to know about it because it’s human limitation.

Some other ways we see the expressions of love are

If a boss pays salary to all his employees on time, he loves his employees. If an employee come to office on all working days without any excuses or despite of health issues, he loves his job and his work.

A child asked god “if everything is written in my fate, why should i prey again?” and god said “Son, it’s true but also in the same page, i have also written “LIVE AS YOU WISH”

So LIFE is always what you make of it. give maximum LOVE to everyone in life so that you can also LIVE AS YOU WISH.

 

BY

Sathyanarayana V.R.

Founder & Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Purpose of life & Growth

Purpose of life & Growth

Why do you do anything you are doing now?

Purpose of life & Growth

Purpose of life & Growth

You may have too many reasons to continue with what you are doing now but, DO YOU HAVE ONE OBJECTIVE to accomplish? Why do we need an objective?

Any action or journey will have fluctuations, difficulties and many challenges to confront before we reach any of our goals and in this process, there will be many situations that make us diverted from the purpose and lose interest to continue the same action. This will be the biggest reason for failure or non-achievement.

If the purpose is set, it is easy to accomplish anything. What is the difference between purpose and accomplishment?

For example: Why are you working in your present job or business? This question will make you think about the purpose. You may get lot of answers but you have to identify one purpose of taking any actions. If the purpose is to earn enough money to build own house, all the actions should be directed towards the purpose and when you have built your home, that will be the accomplishment.
Defining what you want from every action will give you firm decision and you will accomplish desired goal by following the firm decision.

Why do we eat every day?
It is to fill stomach and satisfy hunger. So, we all know that food is required for generating energy and it is a source of energy. Isn’t it? But, sometimes we suffer from bad stomach, acidity and the same food is the reason for the illness. It is clear that even food can become poison if not understood or eaten with awareness.
We all know, Mind is more vulnerable than physical body. Mind gets corrupted in just a second or by just a single word. Body can be healed but not the mind. We all know mind is very powerful that it can achieve anything. But, that is possible only when mind is fed with right food. If we keep on feeding wrong food without awareness and expect right things to happen, it is foolishness.

We must ask this question. Are we feeding right food to our mind? What are the sources of food for mind? What are the factors that we need to understand about feeding right food to mind? here is the answers

Mind gets food from following sources.
1. Environment

Most of us grown from poor financial environment in families. This will have an impact even after we grow to certain extent in life. Environment is the foundation for entire life because whatever we learn during 0-10years of age will build a belief system. Since most of us have seen difficult life at early stages of life, we live in the same mental environment. for ex: looking for low cost products, bargaining for everything and feeling sad to spend money these are the mental environment developed because of poverty.
How to change it? as generally said, we have to start thinking rich. not only that really!.. then what is the food for mind? We have to experience richness. So, change the inner environment and change experiences.

Self-Dependency.
We all work by ourselves for everything from the childhood. We become very good at working on something assigned to us but we fail to make someone work for us and this builds a conditioning that only what if i work, things will happen or nothing goes well. it is a belief and keep working with this belief even after starting career or business.
Give your mind a belief of making most of your time by delegating regular works and that is food for mind.

Limited Beliefs.
We got many conditions in mind. Like, I am unchangeable, I am always right or I can’t earn lot of money and so on…
whole country is growing and because of only our beliefs, we struggle to get what we want and this is another limiting factor which is fed to mind. So, what is the new food that you have to fee to your mind? change these limited beliefs into Unconditional faith

2. EDUCATION
What is our education system teaching us?
Education system is not only academics, it is everything we learn from anyone around us. The system teaches Hard work is the only way to succeed in life. But, it does not teach us what kind of hard work should be done. More than hard work we have to work right! Working right is nothing but understanding what action can give you the growth you want to achieve. Because there are millions of people believe in hard work but they work hard throughout their lives yet live poor.
Change this Hard work to WORK RIGHT by defining purpose and accomplishment.

Satisfaction:
Anyone who has started life from poor background starts a business and makes it successful to a certain extent of earning little more than enough money to lead life will make him SATISFIED businessperson. This will only make him stagnant and not to enhance his business further. Stay hungry is the only food that you can give to your mind for continuous improvement.
There are many other factors which make us not to have purpose in life and growth becomes a mere luck. Turn all challenges into opportunities by asking a simple question; WHAT MORE CAN I DO FOR ANYTHING. Life is enjoyable when you build it with SELF-MASTERY.

By
Sathya Narayana V R
Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.