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Consuming and Contributing relationship.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

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Every glarezone has been adding value to many lives and enhancing wisdom for all of us. Today I love to share something very new about relationship.

We all play number of roles in life and every minute we may have a new role added to life. Let’s take out couple of minutes and recall all our relationships around us. Starting from first circle relationships with intense emotions to a far relationship like some of your forgotten child hood friend, an employee or colleague who worked with you long time ago.

You will have a big list of names and people coming up. Now, let’s do a small exercise. How many relationships are adding value to your life through any means because today we will understand two very important categories of relationships.

Some examples: I have a watsapp group created by my old friends and they keep posting messages, i only reply sometimes and sometimes i don’t. So, in this relationship they are adding value to my life.

I am an important part of the family so, I take care of the needs of family members and in this relationship, I am adding value to those lives.

I am reading a famous book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” and Dr. Stephen covey written beautifully, As a human being, we all are blessed with EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT unlike money bank account. A simple logic is, you need to deposit in order to withdraw money from your bank account, isn’t it? and the more you withdraw lesser the balance. Once the account is empty, you can’t withdraw anymore. But, Emotional bank account is not like this, you can keep on withdrawing how much ever you want.

Consuming and Contributing relationship

Consuming and Contributing relationship

For example: A child will keep withdrawing emotional attention from a mother and it is a never ending process. But, if the account is not deposited back, it goes into negative balance. I have come across a very interesting example for this. A loving mother used to care for an orphan boy living in a garage next door and both boys grew up playing together. Her son got good education and became a doctor then flew to U S  for a job and he got settled. His mother was alone living here and the boy next door always used to take care of her and serve her with good heart. This mother was so attached to this poor boy that she wrote entire wealth on his name thinking that “my own son is well settled, away and he wouldn’t need any of this when he wouldn’t need me”.

Her son was accused of irregularities and removed from his practice for some reason and his certificates were also taken away by local authorities. His wife (who also happened to be a local citizen) divorced him and he lost all his earning as well in the process of dealing with situations. With this pain he comes back and see his own mother was passed away and wrote all her wealth to the boy used to live in garage.

What does it show? It shows how important is to deposit into emotional bank account with your loved ones.  Her son was so busy in building his career and life that he forgot to love, care and keep the emotional attachment intact and never deposited into his emotional bank account with his mother.

A child is a consuming relationship. In this relationship, you will only see child is withdrawing love, care, energy from it’s mother and when the child grow up, don’t you think he/she must deposit all those withdrawals? When this process happens it’s called “Contributing relationship” so now, check if you are in which category.

In a very interesting relationship of a husband and wife, we become consuming relationship. We keep on expecting some or the other things and keep hurting each other. for ex: If wife likes romantic movies, husband likes action movies and while watching a movie, they both argue for silly reasons. We all must understand that we all are different from each other and we have to respect each other’s opinion if not accept.

You need to check who can make you comfortable, feel good and feel alright during tough times, they are your depositors or contributing relationships. And are you giving small comforts for those contributing relationships?

How can you deposit into emotional bank account?

Its very simple, through all those small actions makes someone comfortable. Lets say your parents love to eat together or like to talk to you, make sure you give time. If your spouse loves to go on long drive or have her favourite dish, give those experiences to him/her.

Keep up all those small commitments that you overlook or ignore thinking “it’s a very small thing, it can be done anytime”. Those small things mean a lot to some one close to you because they keep on adding balance to your emotional account.

If you are a parent, make sure your child gets all the freedom, respect, love and care to explore life. be a CONTRIBUTING RELATIONSHIP as much as possible and you will never have a tough situations with people.

 

By

Sathya Narayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.

Money Mantra

Glarezone – 359

Topic: Money mantra

A question for all – In every business, there is an employee who works without asking for salary, increment, loan or leave but ready to work for 24 hours to make you rich. Who is it? Imagine that you get employees like that for your business, how would it be? Most of the Businessmen say – It is ME. is it true?

 

Money mantra

Money mantra

If you have answered as “yourself”, it is wrong because we all have limitations. After a certain extent, you will take a break. After earning some wealth, you will relax. Emotions keep going up and down and you work based on mood some times. Isn’t it? THEN WHO IS THIS EMPLOYEE?

It is no other than “MONEY”. YES, this is the only employee who doesn’t need anything from you. Doesn’t expect you to do anything in return for the work. This efficient employee needs only 2 things 1. Direction and 2. Guidance

If you have understood this, you would achieve financial freedom. Direction to the money is very important as how to grow and Guidance will make right utilization of the money. Most of us never define the directions or guidance for this wonderful employee so struggle to keep him with us.

Let’s ask some of the fundamental questions to ourselves to understand more about adding directions and guidance to the money because that is what defines our true life.

1. WHY DO I NEED MONEY?

We all know money needed for everything; it is a basic need to lead life. We also know, nothing can happen without money. These are general statements about money. But, have you asked yourself anytime, “WHY DO I NEED MONEY?” as we don’t define the purpose for which we need to earn money, we keep working as a routine and not to achieve the objective.

2. HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU WANT?

Mostly, answer to this question is going to be – UNLIMITED. Isn’t it? This is again being very general statement and mind never conceive the idea about how much do i need. You will not acknowledge your success even after arriving at a certain stage of earning wealth. Or it will be the other way around as well, a philosophy like – Too much money is bad and you keep thinking that you can start earning big money any time. Set exactly defined number, be it crores or multi billions.

3. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THAT MONEY?

When you have defined above questions, you can think of helping others and good deeds after you surpass your set target. Make yourself rich enough to help needy people because anything you earn above your expected targets is going to be like bonus and you can truly enjoy the life by making others life happier.

Helping others or giving money to someone in need will not only make you happy but it will create good environment in the society. Ask yourself, what is the benefit if the society is good? Our next generations can like in safe conditions because of helping each other and this is the biggest gift we can give to society.

There are 4 sources or earning money.

1. Employee: being an employee, you trade your hours for salary or remuneration

2. Self-Employed: All professionals who work alone and get all the profits for the effort. However, they will have a limitation of working alone and if they don’t work, money won’t come.

3. Businessman: Any professionals add more people to support the business and multiply the income.

4. Investor: Any individual who make his money earn more money.

You can become an INVESTOR with any combination, which can make you earn residual income. Do analysis of your income sources and become an investor.

Don’t trade your entire life only to earn money. Make money an efficient employee working for you and give him proper directions and guidance So that you can live life and add more to it.

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By

Sathyanarayana V R

Life Coach – Consumax Life Empowering Pvt Ltd.